I recently joined a new gym. In the intro session with a personal trainer, I was asked this question — On a scale of 1 to 10, how committed are you to reaching your fitness goals? If you’re anything like me, you might feel ambivalent. How committed am I, really?
Feeling committed is different than actually committing. One is a desire or wish, the other is a decision to act. For some people, it’s easy to want something really sincerely. In my case, I think through what the costs will be, and often I have trouble deciding if it’s even what I want. The thinking gets in my way.
There are a lot of commitments we can choose to take on. Commitment to personal development, commitment to perform well in our jobs, commitment to a friend or spouse. It’s easy to want to be fully invested, giving your best effort to come through on the commitment. It’s harder to actually follow through.
So, what do we do?
Don’t overthink it. Act on the impulses that cross your mind, welling up from that nebulous commitment zone inside you. I could go to the gym tonight, your mind considers. Go get changed and get in your car. I haven’t connected with a certain friend in a long time. Text her and ask when the two of you can meet up.
Your perceived level of commitment can only do so much for you. It can only remind you so many times to do that thing you’ve been meaning to do. Listen to its voice.